I don't understand why people feel the need to try to discredit different parenting styles and try to make me feel like I'm doing something wrong. I come from a family of co-sleeping, tofu-munching, extended breastfeeding, uber-involved mothers. I like to SHARE every experience with her, not dump her off somewhere while I go have fun. She's not a burden, she's my partner in crime! We do everything together and I love it.
Also, my OCD plays a big part in my inability to be without her for long periods of time. As I've previously stated, I don't just say I'm OCD because I'm "quirky" like MOST people do (that drives me NUTS!) I TRULY AM! I don't act this way for attention or because I think it's cute or funny. If I could stop I'd be the happiest person on the planet. People don't even know the HALF of what I go through with this i.e. the rituals, scary thoughts, etc. SO KEEP THIS IN MIND AND BACK THE HELL OFF ME.
Thank you.
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From what I see/read on your blog, you are an AWESOME mommy and Ms. Bee is lucky to have you!
:)
Seriously, thank you.
I agree; there's no one guaranteed parenting style and so really no one has the right to say whether what you are doing is right or wrong. You seem to have a knack at this thing called motherhood, so keep telling people to go screw themselves, haha!
1. I agree with TLC. I've seen your parenting skillz first-hand and they're exceptional.
2. There is nothing wrong with loving, loving, loving your child. There's actually so much RIGHT about that.
3. I personally think that you can go ahead and whip out your boobs and breastfeed for as long as you want. When Athena is 9 and we're sitting around the Thanksgiving table and she comes up and says, "Mom, I'm thirsty" and you take off your shirt - I'll have a problem. Until then? Milk-tate away.
4. People are dumb. They oft-times times tell you what to do when in reality they've eff-ed up their own situation. Whatev. Most of them aren't even credible.
5. Better yet, people tell you what to do when they haven't ever even ENCOUNTERED your situation. (Those people are my favs.) Again, ignore them. They mean nothing.
6. I understand your OCD is a part of who you are - a part that you'd like to sever. I'm sorry you have to go through that crap. But, I do applaud your tenacity and ability to wisely deal with it. You're good.
7. Love you. Think you're great.
8. Glad we're related now.
When Miss Bee came along you came ALIVE. Not only are you a great mom, you are my very best friend. I applaud you with how far you have come. You are the only person that knows Miss Bee through and through, so you know what she needs and wants.
Just know that if I ever suggest things to you, it is only because I love both you and Athena. Never do I try to butt in on your parenting or your ways of loving her.
Some people just offer advise thinking that "they must of did it all right". Those people live in a BIG BOX.
So keep on keepin on!!!
Yeah! Let's burn something!!!
I agree with the comments above. Your family and relationship between you & Ms. Bee sounds happy and full of love, how you get to that point is irrelevant.
This bugs me, too. You and Athena know that you're doing a great job, and that's all that matters. I've gotten to the point where I've given up on caring what other people think of my parenting style. If they don't like that I let Rhys play with knives, then that's their problem.
Thanks for the supportive comments.
I let Athena play with flaming swords, so she's ready to burn something with you Hurley. A flaming poo-bag by chance?
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